Social Support and Wellness

Studies have found that people who have extended and available social support networks, consisting of friends and/or family members, are less anxious, and less likely to become depressed or develop posttraumatic stress disorder (Wedding & Stuber, p.25). People who have chronic or acute illnesses were found to have better emotional well-being when they had a supportive social network. The key word here: supportive. In contrast to support and wellness, individuals whose family members or friends were highly critical experienced more relapses and required more medication (Wedding, p. 25). One of my very dear friends (won't mention your name), has had fibromyalgia (FMS) for many years. Currently her family is experiencing a tremendous amount of turmoil for reasons beyond her control and her life is changing very rapidly as a result.

Sunday past, she and I made time to get together despite both of our busy schedules. We visited with my daughters; who she hadn't seen since they were in middle school, then went out for a meal so that we could spend some time in conversation. During the evening we shared stories of a few humorous recent experiences, talked about old times, as well as exchanged with one another about her current situation. When I was doing the reading about social networks, thoughts or her came to mind. Though I could never know exactly how difficult it must be to live with fibromyalgia, I sympathize and want her to know that I'm here for her whenever she needs to talk or spend time with someone who will support her. Someone who has been through what she is going through in her personal life and understands.

When I thought about writing this blog I wanted to be sure to encourage her with the information about positive support and wellness. Additionally, I couldn't blog about supportive social networks without mentioning another dear friend (you know who you are). We've known each other over 20 years and have been supportive of one another through numerous parallel hurdles. A formal study this is not, yet through personal experience I can confirm the validity of the direct relationship between wellness in general and "supportive" social networks. Thank you both for the privilege of your friendship.